Hey there!

I’m Amber J…

🔥 MY STORY: FROM GOOD GIRL TO GROWN-ASS WOMAN 🔥

I stand before you as a 52-year-old, single, poly, free woman. Sex-positive. 98% straight. 100% in charge of my time. I choose who and how I spend my time with— and let me tell you… I have LOTS of options. But don’t just take my word for it… Let’s talk about my likes. 👀

Who here has seen the jump rope guy?

I know he’s made his way into Lynn’s book club. (WINK. 😉) It wasn’t always this way. I grew up trying to be the girl who fit in. You know the song "Big Girls Don’t Cry"? I remember hearing it on my very first plane ride—headed to Disney World with my mom. I was six or seven years old. I had big feeling. And on that trip, I learned a lesson: Be the good little fat girl.

Don’t cry. Don’t be too big. Don’t be too loud. Smile. Be nice. And if you feel anything? Stuff it down.

I used humor as a shield and dampened my femininity to protect myself.

And for the next 40+ years? I overcompensated. I became a successful media executive, often the only woman in the boardroom. I played the game by the rules men created. I worked harder. I hustled. I got respect. But despite my success, something always felt off. I was missing something.

That fairytale. That feeling of being taken care of.

💔 My partner felt like a roommate.

💔 Sex became just another thing on my to-do list.

💔 My life was a never-ending cycle of giving, handling, managing.

I was living the “I Can Bring Home the Bacon, Fry It Up in a Pan” version of womanhood— But something about that fell short.

What I REALLY Wanted…

🔹 A place to feel safe.

🔹 To relax my nervous system.

🔹 To feel like things were handled.

🔹 To have someone actually care about MY needs.

Not that I wanted someone to do everything for me… But I also didn’t want to carry it all alone. And when that didn’t happen? I felt disappointment. Deep, bone-aching disappointment.

💔 Disappointed in my partner.

💔 Disappointed that I never felt truly taken care of.

💔 And most of all—disappointed in myself.

Because clearly I was doing it wrong. Because that fat little girl didn’t deserve to be taken care of. That’s the story I told myself.  And over time, it hardened into something even worse:

ALL MEN WILL DISAPPOINT ME. (PAUSE)

That was the lie. And it made me fucking ANGRY. WHO ELSE IS FUCKING ANGRY?

Do you ever feel like you have to do it all? Like if you don’t handle everything, it will all fall apart? Like you don’t even have the space to let someone else take care of you—because deep down… you don’t trust that they will? This is us, women, living in our masculine energy. We had to. We didn’t have a choice. But it left us exhausted, closed off, and resentful. And worst of all? It left us alone. I know. Because I lived it.

The Relationship Escalator That Led Me Nowhere.

I wasn’t single. In fact, I was engaged THREE TIMES. And two out of those three times? I said yes because I thought I was supposed to. I refuse to let ANY woman wait until she is 80 years old to be free. The Moment I Took My Power Back. I had to break the cycle. I had to change the script. So I did the inner work.

I went through a deep transformation. I stopped playing by the rules that were never meant to serve me. I woke up. I left my career as the only woman in the boardroom. I co-founded a successful nonprofit @comedygivesback with two of my best girlfriends. And eight years ago, I became a transformational coach.

Then, at 49 years old—

✨ I had a sexual awakening.

✨ I fully embraced my feminine energy.

✨ I learned how to date like a GROWN-ASS WOMAN. 

What Happens When You Date Like a GROWN-ASS WOMAN?

💥 You feel CONFIDENT.

 💥 You feel FREE.

 💥 You give ZERO F*CKS.

 💥 You make your OWN rules.

And let’s be real—change doesn’t happen overnight. I’m going to awaken new parts of you. I’m going to expose you to new ideas. And then? It’s going to take REPS. Reps in the gymnasium of your life. Reps to rewire old beliefs. Reps to learn how to date like a grown-ass woman.